7 Tips To Getting Your Ex Back Today

If you've been in a relationship for a long time it can be very difficult to deal with a breakup. You want a second chance with them but don't know how they'll react. The prospect of the unknown can make many people not attempt to get their ex back at all. That may seem hard to believe with how you much you want them back now, but the moment of truth can be a scary thing for some. There's no reason to stress about this if you already know what works, take action, and do it.


Some of these may seem obvious, but that's because sometimes the simplest of things can have a big effect. One small change can effect something further down the line and help put your plan into motion. By using a combination of these or all of them you can greatly increase their power and really get her noticing you quickly.

1. A night out with your friends. You'll find you need this anyway, but an effective way to get your ex back is to party with your friends for a night or two. You need to try to have some fun and word could get back to her about how "good" you're taking the breakup.

2. Keep looking good. Don't let the breakup cause you to become lazy and unkempt. Keep your appearance up and your ex will notice the confidence that also comes with looking good.

3. Workout. This goes hand-in-hand with looking good, but working out is also very therapeutic and helps you work through the pain of the breakup in its own way.

4. The no contact rule. Unless you can't otherwise avoid it, have no contact with your ex for at least a month. This will give you both time to simmer down and think about the relationship. This break period is one of the most important steps in getting your ex to come back to you.

5. Apologize to your ex. Your ex needs to know that you're on their side no matter what. The apology has to be sincere and heartfelt otherwise your ex may get nothing out of it and remain distant. It doesn't matter if you think you were right or wrong in the argument the main goal of the apology is so your ex will understand you'll be there and support them, even through rough times like this.

6. Start a new hobby. For awhile you're going to need to distract your mind from your ex in order to think clearer later. A new hobby is a perfect way to divert your mind this way. This isn't a sprint, it's a marathon to get your ex back, so while you're thinking it over you can give your mind a well needed rest by learning something new.

7. Plan! It's vitally important you have a plan to get your ex back. Deciding you're going to make it up as you go along or "wing it" is a terrible idea that can spawn some unneeded and unwanted fights that can only push you further away from your ex. You also need to stick to it and see it through fighting through discouragement if it doesn't seem to be working at first.


There's more ways than this to get your ex to come back to you and even ways to get them to chase you instead. For them to work you've got to put yourself in the right mindset and know you're going to succeed. Not everyone succeeds in getting their ex back, but armed with these tips you've already increased your chances more than most people out there.